If I hear one more person saying THIS
Why “Stop Comparing Yourself” doesn’t work
This issue comes from my very own DeLoran - as I am on maternity leave I collected some of the core lessons I have learned over the beginning of 2025.
Here’s a lil something about me. Since I was ten, I knew I wanted to be a writer.
I imagined myself as the Italian, female version of Stephen King: penning dark stories, drinking too much coffee, and typing away in a quiet corner of the world.
Apparently, the universe had other plans. But still… I became an author.
My first book was a self-published experiment born out of passion and urgency. I had something to say, and I didn’t want to wait for permission to say it.
My second book, “Reclaim Your Time Off”, came from necessity, a love letter to the workaholic in me (and maybe even yourself) who needed a reason to slow down and reflect.
This third one, though? This one has been different.
It’s the most researched, most ambitious, most “me stepping fully into expert mode” thing I’ve ever created.
And that’s also exactly where comparison crept in. Sneaky as ever.
Because the moment I started writing it (with a traditional publisher, double the page number, and the whole academia-meets-marketing experience) my brain did what most of ours do: it opened the tab of comparison. And it kept it open.
Suddenly, every book deal, every launch campaign, every marketing expert with a bestseller to their name felt like a measuring stick.
This newsletter is about the very real experience of comparison, and how to move through it with your self-worth (and creativity) intact.